With the calendar increasing its count by one, the flurry of social posts, blog articles and media attention regarding resolutions cannot be avoided. Rather than participating or criticizing, do we truly understand what is at the heart of a resolution? I decided to look for myself and share it with you (you’re welcome):
the act of finding an answer or solution to a conflict, problem, etc. : the act of resolving something
To even get to the point of wanting to find a solution one must acknowledge a current problem, or have a strong desire to improve oneself. Reaching this point is a significant realization if you think about it.
Let’s get this out of the way first though, I do not care whether you view the start of a new year as a fresh beginning or are adamantly against the practice. What Ido care about is if you’re attempting to change yourself for the better, no matter when it happens to be.
So where do you start you ask? I have you covered, of course. Think of it as a simple system of resolution building blocks. It will take time. It will take energy. It will be worth it, trust me.
Schedule completely uninterrupted time to truly review your latest round of goals or the time period you’re looking to improve upon. Begin by answering these questions:
- What have you been doing right that should be continued?
- What has been a thorn in your side?
- What continues to stay on the radar but never gets accomplished?
- What do you wish you had done?
- Why did you fail? Succeed?
Take note of it all, just let it pour out. Don’t hold back, you’re not here to judge what you’ve done, only to improve going forward. Hindsight is always 20/20, accept your mistakes as a lesson learned and move on.
Bust out the tissues and get ready to be brutally honest with yourself. Think of this step as an emotional inventory evaluation.
- What activities/people/events makes you most happy?
- What activities/people/events anger you like no other?
- When are you at your best? Your worst?
- How do you wish you reacted differently in a situation?
Uncomfortable yet? Good.
It’s critical to develop a hierarchy that you’re comfortable with by having an understanding why one subject, or area, might trump another. By combining what puts you at your best, with what you want to achieve going forward, you develop a foundation for all future decisions.
Create a mental framework of the ranking order for thought provoking questions such as these:
- Is your career more important than friends and social engagements?
- Where does family fit in?
- What personal goals trump professional ones?
- What big dreams do you want to accomplish?
- What financial goal is most important?
This step allows you to have reasoning in place when you’re struggling to make a decision while in the middle of a dilemma. You’re ultimately setting yourself up for success by having this in place.
Cut The Crap
This might be the hardest step of all. In order to truly achieve your biggest aspirations, you will need to eliminate the waste in your life. There’s no way of getting around it.
“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with” – Jim Rohn
We all have those people that are not positively contributing to the betterment of our lives. They’re dragging you down, preventing you from your goals, and you know it. Fortunately for you, once you begin to distance yourself, you will start seeing results immediately. The amount of time and emotional energy saved will be substantial.
Once you start surrounding yourself with people who add value you will habitually start looking at other areas in your life where this might be applicable too. Respond to all backlashes with honesty. Watch out, it is contagious.
At the end of the day, we’re all in this game together. Be happy for the people who are rattled by the New Year and pick up new resolutions. Cheer on those who start new goals at the drop of a dime. Encouraging others to succeed is much easier and satisfying than you imagine. I’ve discovered that once you are accustomed to providing positive reinforcement to them, it intrinsically transfers over into your own mission and consumes all phases of your life.
Here’s to reaching your next solution, pound the fist.